One of the most difficult things in the world is to divorce somebody who is a narcissist. While any kind of divorce is stressful and difficult, trying to end a relationship with somebody who is narcissistic is even more of a challenge.
What Is Narcissism?
Narcissism is a type of personality disorder in which an individual has a distorted self-image. People with this condition may demonstrate a sense of egocentrism, feeling that they are more important than others. They often lack or ignore empathy for others.
Why Is Divorcing a Narcissist Such a Challenge?
When you try to divorce somebody who is a narcissist, you may face several roadblocks that other people do not. Narcissists feel especially hurt and angry when they have to face the reality of divorce, and they may lash out everywhere, from in the home to in the courtroom. They may use the children as pawns or purposely draw out the case as long as possible just to snub you. Narcissists are all about going through with a challenge in order to win, even if that means fighting a lengthy court battle.
What Can You Do?
One of the first things you can do to make divorce easier on yourself is to document any abuse you endure as a result of your spouse's narcissism. Take screenshots of messages, take photos of injuries, and record anything abusive said to you or your children.
Next, you can focus on setting boundaries and limits—and enforcing them. If you need help setting boundaries, you can discuss them with your family law attorney and have him or her give you ideas as to how to implement them. Not having direct contact may be extremely helpful.
Additionally, ensure you have all your documents ready to go. If your spouse likes conflict, he or she may challenge your every assertion. Ensure you have the necessary documentation to back up every claim you make in court.
Finally, ensure you take care of yourself along the way. You may find it helpful to attend therapy sessions to ensure you are mentally and emotionally prepared for the role ahead. Self-care can help you a lot in the divorce proceedings.
You will certainly need an attorney if you have a difficult, high-conflict spouse. If your spouse intends to drag out the process as long as possible, you may find yourself in need of a strong attorney who has experience handling spouses who like to induce conflict.
For more information, contact a divorce lawyer.Share